Feast of the Holy Family
This weekend we celebrate the feast of the Holy Family our parish feast day as we begin the Holy Year of Hope in our diocese. I struggle with the disparity between the holiness of the Holy Family as reflected in many pictures and religious art compared to the reality of family life in the present day. In the First Reading we are told that respect and care for our parents brings great benefits, including answered prayers and a long life. In the Second Reading we are called to Embrace the virtues of compassion and kindness, and forgiveness so that Christ’s peace will rule our hearts. In Luke’s gospel we listen to the story of boy Jesus stepping outside the family circle to engage elders in the temple. That had to be more exciting for Jesus than helping in the workshop or bringing in water from the well.
When Mary and Joseph find him in the temple 3 days later they discover him talking with the teachers of the law busy with his Fathers work. The challenges for families today are as insistent and more intense than ever before in human history. The drumbeat of consumerism focuses us on things you possess instead of relationships with other people. Technology focuses us on how many “likes” we can collect as if those “likes” amounted to being truly loved and cared for which they really are not about. Mobile phone technology removes the need to “listen” to one another in face to face conversations as Individuals control their contacts. We quickly learn how to “unfriend” people who annoy us. Even though voices from the past are loud and insistent, some parts of our world seems to be moving towards authoritarian leadership fuelled by divisive rhetoric. On this day when we celebrate the Holy Family we can only hope to find in the good news a way to transform our families. In Luke’s gospel, the return of Jesus to his parents and in his listening to them is a model for not only children but also parents. In his rule Saint Benedict put it well when he said you should listen with the ear of your heart.
We need to listen to our children, to our spouses, to our extended families. If we listen with the ear of our hearts we learn from them, share with them, help them in their personal struggles as we share in their accomplishments hopes and dreams. Then when they look they will see that the road we are taking is the better road and join us along the way. As we think about the Holy Family we recognize the sacrifice that Joseph and Mary made for Jesus, in the same way as we recognize the many sacrifices our own parents made for us and many more are making for their children today in our I want I get world. Our families would find the disagreements, stressful relationships, and resentments that spoil the joy of family harmony so much easier to solve by trying to imitate the faith, love and trust of the Holy Family. So now as pilgrims of hope we pray for our families “Lord Jesus, you came to restore us to unity with the Father in heaven. May all our families find peace, wholeness, and unity in you, the Prince of Peace during this Holy Year of Hope.





